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Judge Leader, Reporting for Cybils Duty!

Posted in Cybils on 09/16/2010 08:50 pm by jess

So here’s a little-known fact about me (as, indeed, why should it be known?): my grandfather was a judge for the Rhode Island State Supreme Court.  He wasn’t the kind of grandfather I could get to know that well, especially because he was sick for a large part of my life, but I definitely knew that being a judge was a huge part of his identity.  I have many vivid memories of walking around Providence with him and having people doff their hats to say, “Hello, Judge.”  Or he’d host parties (with the most delicious hors d’oeuvres, oh my word; I still fantasize about the cheesy puffs)–and people would give him cards addressed to The Judge.  I hope it’s not speaking ill of him to note that my mother would indeed concur that he was A Judge.  But whether this was fun for those around him or not, I am psyched to learn that I will be following in his footsteps–not as a law-court judge (good lord, I would be terrible at that)–but as a judge for the Cybils!

The Cybils are the Children’s and Young Adult Bloggers’ Literary Awards, and every year, ripe dozens of bloggers commit to reading many nominated books each year to determine which are award-worthy.  Their call for judges was so funny, actually, that I’m going to quote them:

Yes, it’s that time of year, when we ask kidlit bloggers around the world to stop what they’re doing and join us. It’s going to be another crazy contest year, so we’re again reminding everyone [editor’s note: the italicized words below were actually crossed out, but WordPress is not delivering on its promise to do the cross-out font, so I had to downgrade:]

  1. judging is loads of fun work. For which we pay you tons nothing.
  2. you should skip skim read every word of this post here.
  3. you’ll also find an explanation of the secret handshake rules there too

Got to love an honest call for volunteers.

I’m going to be a panelist in the non-fiction category, which means that along with a committee of an unclear number of people I don’t know yet esteemed peers,  we will be reading until our eyeballs bleed cooing lovingly over all of the please God don’t let there be too many nominated books and yammering loudly for our favorites to move on narrowing to a shortlist of 5-7.

First of all, it’s a chance to read great books and learn some stuff.  But perhaps of greater interest is the chance to discuss the merits of books with other interested parties, especially debating what makes one great book stand out over another.  M. T. Anderson’s judging statement for the School Library Journal Battle of the Books, on two non-fiction titles, actually, was one of the best pieces of literary criticism I have ever read, and was part of what inspired me to throw my hat into the non-fiction ring.  I think that, for the first time, I’m going to post reviews of what I read, and I’ll get to pass on the knowledge to you all.  Maybe, just as I notched up the rent-count on Fame, I’ll get you all to learn about Nicola Tesla or the invention of lollipops.

So thank you, Cybils, for choosing me (was it my post on Fame that convinced you?), and to our fearless leader especially, Susan Thomsen from Chicken Spaghetti.  I promise to doff my hat in return when you address me as “Judge” and to find that recipe for cheesy puffs to celebrate the end of our process.

Let the games begin!  May the odds be ever in your favor!

ps  An interesting post from the Cybils website about choosing their panelists and judges.  There are 110 of us–wow!

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I Sing the Body Electric–Fame!

Posted in The Book of the Dead, Who is Jessica Leader? on 09/14/2010 05:21 pm by jess

I hazily remember that back when I used to work full-time, I used to do things like go into other peoples’ offices or classrooms to jabber when I needed a break.  I even remember a Catchy Jingles War with my boss Elizabeth, in which we’d wait until the other one stepped away from her desk, call each other up, and sing or whistle an annoyingly catchy tune–“I’d rather buy at PC [that’s PC Richards!” or “Can-can, Shop-Rite has the can cans!”  There was also the time that Angie and I plotted a hella bad April Fool’s Day prank that I couldn’t laugh about for a long time.  But it’s a good thing I have these memories, because when I do things like watch clips from the Fame movie during writing breaks, I don’t feel like such a lout.

I had a really good reason for watching Fame.  I needed a good poem quote about swimming for the big moment when Luke takes the plunge, and I found one from Walt Whitman–

Swim with the swimmers, wrestle with wrestlers, march in line with the firemen, and pause, listen, count.

This is so apropos you don’t even know it.  But then I thought, “Oh, ‘I sing the body electric’–just like that song from Fame!  I need to watch that.  And do you:

For those of you tragically not in the know, Fame was a masterpiece of 80s cinema.  It followed the lives of several students at the High School for the Performing Arts in NYC  and starred such luminaries as Irene Cara, the guy who played Rocket Romano on ‘er,’ a really cute cellist, and Debbie Allen. (“You’re going to work!  You’re going to sweat!”)  It got turned into a TV show that was on too late for me to watch (actually, the movie was too racy for me when it came out, too; it was only in later years that I rented it)–but everybody knew the songs (I think we sang them at day camp), and

everybody wanted to go to The Fame School.  It’s probably a good thing I didn’t get to watch the movie when I was little, or there’d have been much I was freaked out about, but the singing and dancing were great!

And “I sing the body electric” is such a great number, too.  I hope that one day WordPress will allow inset commentary a la Mystery Science Theatre, because there’s so much I need to say about this one.  F’rinstance:

-did someone tell everybody except the black kids who get the falsetto duet not to have any expression when they sing, a la 90% of high school students?  These guys look totally divorced from the awesome emotional content of their song.  It’s hilariously realistic.

-Mr. Shorofsky!  The coolest non-crusty teacher ever!  I wonder what happened to him?

-The dancing during the rocking-out portion–is that considered ballet?  It’s kind of just people picking each other up, albeit in really cool combos.  I eagerly await a balletomane’s opinion.

-Look at that thin, wide camera!  I’d totally forgotten about those!

-The guy they focus on during the line, “I toast to my own reunion–my own reunion” looks like the one who plays Big Love on Season 4 of House!  I’m sure he was in diapers when this came out, so maybe it was his Papa?

Oh, and.  I just found the TV theme song so I could share that with you, too, and I think some serious Fame watching is going to need to commence.  (I wonder if Wild and Woolly Video carries it?)  I haven’t seen it in years, but I have no doubt that it beats the dance-belt off of Glee, which, I’m sorry, is the most heartbreaking misuse of  story ever.  And hello, Janet Jackson and Michael Cerveris are in this?  Why didn’t anybody tell me?

One final note: watching  the credits of multi-racial kids, all struggling to rock out and fit in actually reminds me of my work in progress!  I’m sure that in some episode, there’s some Fame equivalent to the aforementioned Luke, doing something similar to swimming with his shirt off.  Yes!  This was not a totally loutish digression after all.

Remember my name–Fame!

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Nice and Mean at Carmichael’s Bookstore this Sat!

Posted in Appearances, Nice and Mean, Youth on 09/10/2010 08:02 am by jess

Will talk about my reading on Saturday in a moment, but guess who’s coming to town this weekend?  The cutest nephew ever!!

In other news (ha, I almost wrote, ‘in other words’), I’m hoping to see some of you Louisville readers at Carmichael’s Bookstore on Frankfort Avenue this Saturday at 4pm!  I’ll be reading and doing Q&A, and there will be a special presentation for teachers called, “Ways to Enhance Writing Workshop: Lessons from a Real-Live Writer.”  I always thought I was a pretty good writing teacher, but when I started writing full-time, I realized there were several things I could have done more effectively.  Here’s a teaser: no more memoirs!  Nancy Atwell, writing guru, swears by memoirs.  I loved Nancy Atwell, but I never thought the memoir units really worked, and at Carmichael’s, I will reveal the reasons why.

I also have a new approach to my get-the-crowd-talking technique.  Questions will fly.  Objects will fly.  Be there.

Carmichael’s did a great write-up for me, so I’m going to paste it here. Did you know they’re Louisville’s oldest independent bookstore?

A MIDDLE GRADE NOVEL WITH A MESSAGE

SATURDAY
SEPTEMBER 11th
4 PM
2720 FRANKFORT AVE
On Saturday, September 11th at 4 PM we welcome local educator and first-time author Jessica Leader for a reading and discussion of her young adult novel, Nice and Mean.

Come hear Jessica talk about her new book, and if you are a parent, teacher or librarian, you’ll be entered to win a classroom visit from Jessica this fall. Nice and Mean is a well-told, funny, and satisfying story of middle school peer pressure and how two girls, one nice and one mean, learn to broaden their horizons.

Jessica Leader knows her subject well – she’s taught at schools in Louisville and New York.

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Two More Bits of Nice News

Posted in Book Reviews, Nice and Mean, Not That Girl, Uncategorized on 09/02/2010 09:00 pm by jess

News summary: After a very fun run of it, my serialized story in the Louisville Courier-Journal, Not That Girl, has wrapped up its monthlong appearance.  You can read  You can read the series from start to finish here.

I was also thrilled to get this lovely review from Tweendom, which is run by the lower-school librarian at Little Red School House in NYC.  (I did a little Internet sleuthing; it’s true.  The school looks almost nothing like that picture, by the way; although it is, in fact, little and red, it’s on the corner of very busy 6th Avenue.  That image was so gorgeously Maxfield Parrish, though, I couldn’t resist including it.)  Little Red was so much cooler than I was that I didn’t even know anybody who went there, but I can recoup some of that lost coolness now by having a nice mention on the librarian’s review blog.  You can read it here, or just enjoy this part:

“Jessica Leader has gotten the multiple worlds of the middle schooler down pat. Seventh grade tends to be a time of big changes…of kids figuring out who they want to be and where they are going to fit in. Marina and Sachi, while seemingly opposites, illustrate this beautifully. Round out the cast of their satellite friends and many types of kids are shown without seeming like Leader simply lined up types and put them in. Nice and Mean shows readers that most likely, the kids they think of as mean aren’t all mean, and the kids who seem nice definitely have some back story of their own!”

Off to the beach this weekend, and I desperately hope that Earl does not delay me!  I have kind of a horrible fear of flying,

and if this flight is punctuated by turbulence, I don’t know what kind of state I’ll be in when I get off the plane.  If you want tosay a little prayer, I wouldn’t mind being included.

Happy Labor Day weekend!  May the fruits of your labor be recognized!

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People Share Nice and Mean Memories

Posted in Appearances, On the Scene with Nice and Mean on 08/30/2010 08:55 am by jess

On Saturday, I did one of my first authorly Events, the Big Brothers Big Sisters Friendship Celebration.  I have been a Big Sister for over 4 years now, and it’s been a fantastic element in my life.  I love being able to help someone directly, without any interface, and of course I love my little sister, who has grown from 8 to almost 12 in the time that I’ve known her (and she’s retained her sweetness—amazing!)  Naturally, I was thrilled to have a Nice and Mean Event for an organization I care so much about.

An Event is a somewhat different beast than a reading or school visit.  At an Event, you have a table representing Your Book and You, and you are the sole staff member (well, unless you are a bigger type than myself.)  You might sell books, and you might not.  Mostly, you are there to drum up enthusiasm for Your Book and You and to Meet People.   I have no problem with this. I like meeting people, especially kids and teachers, and this gives me a chance to interact.  But to do this, I have decided, I need a Gimmick, and my Gimmick is Nice and Mean Memories.  (Apparently my Gimmick for Talking About This is Capital Letters, but anyway.)

In addition to erecting my little area with books, bookmarks, and information on how to bring me into your school, I created a little clothesline to which people could affix their Nice or Mean Memories.  I had some left over from various bookstore appearances, but those are going to get retired, because I got so many great new ones from the Little Brothers and Sisters and their Bigs and parents, too!  I told them I’d put their words on the internet and make them famous by Monday night, so here I am, making good on my promise.

I’m starting with the mean memories so you can end on a sweet note:

Mean Memories

When my mama had got lock up my godmother cut my hair when I was 13.

5th Grade—I was proud of my new gauchos…until I saw the “popular” girls giggling about them.

My mom had a dozen roses stolen from her.

Nice Memories

I the best student and the nicest.  My name is Demetrius.

My favorite nice memory is when my 10-year-old brother wrote me a letter for my 18th birthday telling me how much I mean to him!  I love you, little brother!

A friend came to visit me & gave me a hug after a hard day at the doctor’s office.

When my mom tooke me and my mom’s friend and daughter to Six Flags!!

Me and all my family went to the zoo.

My best friend, John Mark, getting the ENTIRE cafeteria to sing HAPPY BIRTHDAY to me on my 16th birthday!

All the time that me and my big sis cook together.

Joe is my friend at church and he is nice to me.

I did chors to help mi mom.  (Editor’s note: I feel compelled to remark that that was written by a 5-year-old on his own!)

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I was surprised that so many more people wrote Nice memories than Mean ones.  I personally might have liked to vent (maybe this is why I am a writer?), but I guess they wanted to think about something happy on a Saturday morning—and who can blame them?

Mostly, though, I just felt good reading and re-typing these.  It’s such a good reminder, too, that even something as simple as taking your family to the zoo can count as a nice memory.  It’s possibly indulgent and self-referential to be inspired by things inspired by your book, but I did feel inspired, and honored, at the memories people shared.

If you have any Nice or Mean memories to share, feel free to add.

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Top 10 Surprises of Being on TV!

Posted in Appearances, Nice and Mean on 08/26/2010 09:44 am by jess

Thanks to WHAS 11 News for inviting me to be on the news at noon–it was so fun!

Edited to add: you can watch it here!

I hope everybody gets a chance to be interviewed in a news studio sometime, because it’s an uncanny experience.  The top 10 things I was surprisedly delighted by, in order of appearance:

1. The ceilings in the building are so high! Maybe 16 feet?  I tried to guesstimate, and maybe someone can set me straight, but walking in, I felt like a member of the Willy Wonka party peering around the door to the chocolate factory. (Tragically, no Gene Wilder singing “Pure Imagination,” but there were other pleasures to follow.)  It makes sense; they need to hang many lights at different angles, but I had never thought about that element before.

2. If it’s local news, at least, there will be no one fluffing your face with a blush-brush or dabbing on the pancake make-up. That was okay by me; I used the once-weekly make-up beforehand.  I had just been looking forward to that, along with some tissues tucked in the collar, but maybe I’m confusing that with, I don’t know, having an important role.

3. There may not be a green room, but you get to sit on the sidelines and  watch until it’s your turn. This was probably the best part.  Claudia, the news anchor, read the news just like they do on TV.  (Shocking, I know!)  But in between takes, she’d make funny comments.  When she finished introducing an Oprah episode about call-girls, she fanned her face said, “I’m so glad you showed the clip for that one–I didn’t want you to see my face!  My mother’s at home going, ‘Clow-dia!  Ach du lieber!’  I giggled, thinking of this incredibly polished woman and her strict German mother.

Claudia also made me laugh over the Tiger Woods divorce story.  When she finished it, she worried, “Did I pronounce his wife’s name E-lin, or Ellen?  No, I know I said E-lin.  Ellin has very long hair;  Ellen has very short hair.”  It took me a minute to get the pun (Ellen de Generes; vowel sounds), but then I had to hide my laughter, too.  I thought only reading teachers thought about long and short vowels, but apparently not!

4. You may meet other people in the studio with much cooler stories than your own.

I shared the warming-bench with the second-place winner of both the pie-baking contest AND the chocolate-treat baking contest at this year’s state fair.  It was a serious effort not to leap up and swipe a piece of the cake while no one was looking.

5. News comes in even during the broadcast, and the anchors have to adjust the stories and keep their composure.

During commercials and clips from the network, Claudia would check her Blackberry, and at first, I thought, ‘Oh, she’s probably texting her family.” Turned out she was getting new stories, including one about a shooting in town.  It seemed like they shortened other pieces to get that in, with little lead-time to do so, and they couldn’t react emotionally at all, or if so, only in a measured way.

6. It’s almost lonely in that studio.

It’s so big, and it was just Claudia, the weather and traffic reporter (Grant? Gene?  Sorry!) and the tech guy.  I always think writing is a lonely profession, but I wonder if it doesn’t feel even weirder to cheerfully report the news and bare your personality with no response!

7. The microphone goes up through your shirt!

Second base on the first date with a microphone, on local TV!  What would Claudia’s mother say?  And the worst part was that my shirt and the mike were black, so to make sure the mike wasn’t making my shirt look weird, I had to ask Claudia to help me adjust.  She was very nice about it, though.

8. The chairs have no backs, and you can’t see how you look beforehand!

I am much better at sitting up straight when there’s something to rest on, and I didn’t get to check my appearance until I was on TV, only to see that I was projecting an unflattering side view and didn’t know how to work around it!  I mean, I know the point is the book and not me, but I wish I’d had more winning cards here, other than what mom and dad gave me…

9. Unless you’re a criminal, they are nice enough to let you know what they’ll be asking you first.

I wouldn’t say I got the questions in advance or anything, but in the minute or so between when I sat down and when we went ON AIR, Claudia said we didn’t have a lot of time and asked me what I wanted covered.   I told her and she more or less stuck to that with a few other things thrown in.  Quel relief!

I got to talk about what I think the book teaches, where I get my inspiration, and how I’m grateful to be on the IndieNext list.  That was all we had time for, but it was fun while it lasted!

10. If you get to be on TV, for goodness’ sake, ask when it will be aired and record it!!

I just assumed it was going to be for a later broadcast and that I’d get home in time to record it, but apparently it was somewhat live–gah!  I guess I’ll pay the $$ to buy it, but I still feel like a doog.  (That was meant to say ‘doof,’ but ‘doog’ encapsulates it so much better.)

Ah, well–next time, I’ll check my side appearance and do my recon!  That is, if there is a next time.  I hope so; I really enjoyed myself.  Maybe Claudia wants me to come on to imitate my mother.  I can do a really good one of her talking about her pockabook, which is Rhode Island-ese for “purse.”  Or I can talk about long and short vowel sounds.  Or maybe I’ll write another book…

If you have any tips for future appearances, feel free to chime in!

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What to Do About Meanness, Part 2

Posted in Uncategorized on 08/24/2010 10:30 am by jess

At my reading on Saturday, a brave middle-schooler asked me, “If you had a daughter who was dealing with mean kids like the girls in your book, what would you do?”  I tried my best to answer the question in the moment (see my earlier post on this), but I went home and thought about it a lot.  Here’s my 8-step plan for dealing with meanness in school:

1. Don’t try to address the mean person directly

Usually I’m in favor of addressing people directly, but in the case of school meanness, I don’t think a talk from another kid is going to change the mean person.  I know that novels tell you that standing up to bullies is good, but I think that mean people are secure in their meanness and aren’t going to stop just because someone their age asks them to.

2. Do Involve a Teacher

Maybe I’m just saying this because I’m a teacher, but teachers care about how kids are doing and want to help.  Teachers want to create safe schools where kids feel good about themselves and are undistracted from learning. In addition, luckily for you, they love to be approached personally for help. (Teachers can be vain, just like anyone else.)  Also, while your powers may be limited to talking to the mean person directly, teachers can do sneaky things to limit bad behavior (more on this later.)  So ask your teacher if the two of you can find a time to chat, although a word about timing:

3. Don’t Wait Until Something Really Bad Happens to Ask for Help

We’ve all been there–that one week when everything just goes to you-kn0w-where and we want the adults to step in and do something.  Definitely ask for help if you’re in that situation right now, but if you’re not, now is the time to meet with your teacher.  Specific events of meanness get sticky; there’s a lot of blaming and denial and it’s hard for teachers to get at the truth and figure out the right thing to do.  Just choose an ordinary day.

4. Also, Try to be Brave Enough to Go in Alone

As a teacher, I always got a little suspicious when more than two kids approached me at a time, and three or more turned into a teary free-for-all.  Come to me one-on-one and you’ve got my attention and respect.  I also had an easier time responding to kids without their parents there.  It was easier for me to feel sympathetic and come up with good ideas because I didn’t feel like I was under pressure.  Imagine yourself as a teacher, and some brave student comes to talk with you alone.  You’d feel sorry for the kid and have the urge to help them, right?

5. Tell Your Story, With a Medium Number of Details.  Be Humble.

You might want to begin like this: “I’m not saying this to tattle, but I’m having a really hard time with so-and-so being mean to me this year.”  You can give a few examples of the ways this person is mean and how it makes life hard for you.  Does he or she make fun of you in the hall or hide your belongings? Does this person send around rumors that have caused fights with your friends?  Without going into too much detail, give some examples.  (If the teacher wants more specifics, he or she will ask.)

Then say, “I know I’m not perfect, and I’m sure there’s more I can do to be nice and include people.  But it would be great if this person could be just a little less mean.  And I wanted to tell you because I thought maybe you could help.”

6. Come Prepared with Suggestions

Before your talk, think: how could teachers be effective?  Do they need to monitor the halls, bathrooms, or lunch tables better?  Teachers are stationed at those places for a reason, but they get lazy and even shy and don’t wander among the lunch tables as much as they should.  Your request could spread the word that they need to do this more.  Maybe teachers need to assign partners in certain classes so one person isn’t always left out, or make sure that two people never get to sit near each other.  There’s no such thing as a school where the teachers’ only job is to teach.  If there’s meanness at your school, the teachers need to be doing their  job more thoroughly.

7. Also Ask the Teacher for Suggestions

After you’ve shared your stories and your request, pause so the teacher has a chance to think.  Hopefully, he or she will have some ideas but that may not be the case just yet.  If you feel like your teacher is stumped, you can provide assurance: “I don’t expect everything to change right now, because I know teachers are only human.  However, it would be great if things could get even a little better.  I even feel glad that we got to chat just now.  Can we maybe talk again later this month?”  This will signal to the teacher that a) you are polite and reasonable; b) you’ll be back, and they need to come up with some solutions!

8. If it Doesn’t Work the First Time, Keep Trying Until it Does

Maybe you chose a teacher who had the time and desire to help, but maybe not.  Try not to feel discouraged–just find another one to talk to.  Or approach your principal or the school counselor.  If you talk to two or more teachers and no one does anything, it’s time to involve a parent.  Share with your parent all the approaches you have tried and the suggestions you made.  They will probably be peeved that the teachers didn’t help you and will summon all that energy when they go in and talk to the adults at school.  I’m optimistic that that will get things moving, but I’m more hopeful that you’ll have already made some difference.

Whew!

That was a longie, I know.  But I repeat my question to the girl in the audience: on a scale of huge tiny, was that helpful?

And as for the rest of you–kids, parents and teachers–is there anything you would subtract or add?  I’d really like to know.

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What to Do About Meanness, Part 1

Posted in Bookstore visits, Nice and Mean, Youth on 08/24/2010 09:30 am by jess

Saturday’s Reading at Destinations Booksellers in New Albany, IN!

I’m so grateful to Andy and Randy at Destinations Booksellers and to everyone who came indoors during a completely glorious summer afternoon to hear me read and answer questions about Nice and Mean.  Thanks especially to the cool mom who brought these fun kids!  (She’s taking the picture.)  They also won an author visit from me on behalf of their middle school, and I can’t wait to set it up, in part because I need to do a better job at answering one girl’s question.

The Q&A about the book veered toward the subject of meanness, and one of the girls, not pictured here, asked, “If you had a daughter this age, what would you tell her if people were being mean, the way they were in this book?”

“Ooh,” I said, “that’s a really good question.” (Apparently this is what I automatically say when I don’t have an answer ready, which is one sign of a good question.)  “It’s such a good question that I’m not even sure I can answer it well right now, but I’ll try.”

I said something to the effect that there will probably always be mean people and they’re not likely to change a ton, but if you are a nice person, people will notice.  Classmates and teachers will notice your including someone who isn’t well-liked, or going out of your way to support a friend, or having the character to engage people in interesting conversations.  And it may not pay off right now, in elementary or middle school, but as you get older, people will seek you out for friendships and positions of responsibility, and you will be a happier person than the person whose main means of pulling themselves up is putting others down.

“How’s that?” I asked the girl.  “On a scale of tiny to huge, how helpful?”

She gave what I can best describe as a look of kindness, although that’s not quite it.  “It’s okay for now,” she said.

Well, phew.  But I went home and thought about it some more, and I came up with a longer answer–so long, I created a new post.  But thank you, brave middle-school student, for asking me that question, and thanks to everyone else at Destinations Booksellers who created an environment where she felt comfortable asking.  I admire you all.

Coming soon: an 8-step plan for dealing with meanness in school.

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Not That Girl, Installment 4

Posted in Not That Girl on 08/23/2010 09:01 am by jess

A link to the fourth installment of my Sunday Serial story for the Louisville Courier-Journal, Not That Girl.  I am the link

The story so far: The Awesome Foursome — Jackie, Mel, Zoe and Becky — have always stayed tight friends. But what would happen when boys came into the picture? Things got weird when Zoe surprised everyone by hanging out with Cal, an older guy, at the movies, and looking like they might be a couple. As summer ended, and everyone headed back to school, would things be different for everyone?

There are also links to installments you may have (tragically) missed.

On another note, I had a great time on Saturday reading from Nice and Mean and doing Q&A at Destinations Booksellers in New Albany, Indiana!  Looking forward to posting pictures, congratulating the winners of the school-visit giveaway, and revising an answer to my very favorite question.

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Best Thing About Back-to-School?

Posted in Nice and Mean, Teaching Tales on 08/18/2010 09:23 am by jess

[That is an image from the unparalleledly wonderful movie Grease 2, featuring the song “Back to School.”  In case you didn’t know.]

For the first time in several years, I had my own back-to-school on the day itself!.  I taught middle-school English and drama for quite a chunk of years, but for the last few, have worked as a teaching artist through Actors Theatre of Louisville, visiting classrooms to teach playwriting.  This year, I’m doing a more formal partnership with a high school in town, so I got to attend the first day of school yesterday, and it actually put me in the mind of some fictional kids about to start the school year–Sachi and Marina, the girls of Nice and Mean.

I haven’t written about them in a while, I know; frankly, since I took a little appearances hiatus in the middle of the summer, I haven’t thought about them much, either.  But yesterday, seeing the neighborhood girls head back to school with little dresses and blown-out hair, I thought about what Marina and Sachi’s first day of school would have been like.  Nice and Mean begins a few week after school has started, but Sachi knew as early as the summer that her goal was to get into video elective, where her video would allow her to show people that she was more than just the stereotypical Indian honor-roll student.  Marina wouldn’t yet have been pissed off at her best friend to want to seek revenge, but I could certainly see her wanting to put together le perfect outfit.

I also thought about my own first days.  Like 11th grade, my second year at that school, when I came back from the summer relieved to find that the friends I’d made during the second half of the year were actually friends for real–and one of them had also crushed on a long-haired guitar-playing Brown University student who’d studied in Ecuador!  (She is still my best friend, and we still share a startling number of things in common.)  Or 8th grade, when I was determined to wear a flowered, Indian-print t-shirt on the first day, even though our school technically had a collared-shirt dress code.

(What the heck–why did it take so many scroll-downs to find the correct image for ‘granola shirt’?  Do you mean to tell me people aren’t using the same nomenclature from the late ’80s?)

It all led to me to a new poll (and frankly, I should have retired the old one a month ago; sorry)–what’s do you consider the best  thing about going back to school?

[Arg, I couldn’t get the poll to embed, so just look over to the left there–you should see the poll.]

You can vote for more than one thing and add your own answers. I look forward to seeing the results!

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